Feeling homesick...

Since the wedding, I have been feeling slightly homesick...

I have never stayed away from home more than the duration of a holiday trip, never away from the comforts of home and most of all, never really away from my family... My mum...

But of course, being married also means you have to move... don't get me wrong... I love staying with my hubby in our new place... and even our short stint with the in-laws... but you know... the parents' place will always stay special in your heart... I would say I have adapted well... just the occasional feeling of "Mummy! I need you!"... which is usually soothed with a phonecall.

But these days, when I feel sick and needy... I feel really homesick...

I missed the times when mum takes care of me when I'm sick... She will wake up early, make sure my favourite breakfast is on the table when I wake up... because when eating is a chore, having something you actually feel like eating really helps... And of course, the usual bring you water for medicine, some herbal tea, porridge, wet towel for the forehead, waking up in the middle of the night to take your temperature... and sleeping the day away always cures everything. It's not that I'm not getting all these things now... I guess a mum's touch is the difference? Mums are the best medicine when you are sick?

Oh well... I guess you only start to appreciate something when you don't have it anymore... :(

Mrs Wong... Me?

It's been more than 1 month since our wedding... but everything from the day still seems pretty clear in my head now... and my heart still feels warm and fuzzy... effects from a happy wedding? See I knew all the effort and $ would pay off... hahaha... ;)

To me, the wedding was perfect... all I ever wanted... a simple and elegant dress, pretty and happy bridesmaids, nice hand bouquet, dreamy-looking pre-wed photos, good hair day, charming reception, super smiley parents and brother, spontaneous groomsmen, my dashing groom... and being serenaded to... was definitely the perfect icing to the cake... I really felt like the happiest girl in the world...

As the saying goes... the wedding is only the beginning of it all... Well, this is definitely a wonderful start!

So, how has married life been treating me? Hmm... so far so good... guess we are still in the honeymoon stage... heh... hope it stays this way... =)

Sure you know me?

Still on the book that I'm still reading...

The writer has decided to come clean before her wedding as she thinks that it's only fair for her fiance to know her darkest secrets/ habits... so the copycat in me is inspired to do the same thing... heh... so here it is... painstakingly compiled...

In general,

- I dislike crowded and noisy places... I feel nervous when there are alot of people piling/ squeezing against me...

- Can't stand sloppy, lazy and untidy people/things...

- Loves to daydream/ think... sometimes excessively...

- Likes to watch alot of tv on holidays...

- Listens to music while doing work...

- Needs to go to nice places/ cafes/ restaurants/ shops to feel inspired...

- Though not artistically/ musically trained, anything of such nature never fails to fascinate me... thus the desire to catch performances/ concerts/ musicals... or visit galleries...

- I'm not tech-savvy...

- I think housework is like admin work... it value-adds and is totally necessary... doesn't require much brain power... just very labourious and mundane... and can be outsourced...

- Jogging clears my mind... and I like to do it in the morning...

- I used to like driving... cause I thought it felt liberating... but after a few near-death experiences... I think I'm better off being a passenger...

- I enjoy wining and dining experiences... not so much for the food... but more for the ambience and dreaminess that I get out of it...

- I'm a sucker for flowers and appreciate little gestures/ surprises... especially from an overseas trip... They are never too much...

- Requires a high level of affection... and am inclined to think that life would just be perfect if I get that one more hug and one more kiss...

- When I'm sulking in the car... my anger dissipates almost immediately when you hold my hand and smile to me...

- I don't like to eat in hawker centres... because it feels chaotic... I don't mind taking away the food from there and eat at home...

- I really don't like to eat pork... Yes I already know I won't die eating it...

- I'm irritated by sudden changes in plans.

- I feel alot of love and warmth at home... and I hope it will be the same in our own home...

- Something very important to note: I have far more enthusiasm in life than I have actual energy. In my excitement, I routinely take on more than I can physically or emotionally handle, which causes me to break down in quite predictable displays of dramatic exhaustion, whereby I feel alone and helpless... I usually feel much better if I see you/ get a phone call from you... even though I don't communicate the issue to you.

- Loves to travel... for leisure... Traveling alone for work is really not that fun... quite stifling sometimes...

- I'm generally supportive of your plans... just wished that they were put across as questions rather than as statements...

- Absolutely loves being "baby"...

Hmm... I think there are more... but can't think now... to be continued another time! ;p

The whole package

Came across this while reading some book...

The writer wrote... "Loving someone is akin to an experienced jewelry trader buying a combi pack of gems.."

So what is a "combi pack"? It is a package with a mix of gems... some good... some outstanding... and always mixed with some crappy stones... traders are supposed to bid for them... and the price is always overestimated because people tend to focus on the perfect stones... If you are lucky, you may find some precious diamonds or aquamarines... if not, there are always some pretty turquoise as consolation... but the real catch is... what do you do with the other stones? Alot of jewelry traders are full of grouses for these combi packs because they are always temporarily blinded by the sparkly gems, pay an exorbitant price... but only manage to sell a few of these and soon, they get stucked with a truckload of worthless stones... with no capacity to buy new gems unless they manage to sell more of it away...

However, from experience, they will realize that the trick is to ignore the perfect gems... don't even look at them because they are blinding... instead, focus on the bad stones... Scrutinize them for a long while... and if you decide you can work something out of them... for example, sell them to some artist to decorate some photo frames... then get the pack by all means...

It's the same with relationships... People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other's personalities. Who wouldn't? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that's not the clever trick. The really smart thing to do is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you view these flaws as strengths? Can you look at your partner's faults honestly and say, "I can work around that. I can make something out of that"? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it's always going to be pretty and sparkly, but it's the crap underneath that can ruin the relationship...

In essence, it's a whole package... don't expect to enjoy the goods without accepting the bads... remember... no one is perfect in the world... and there are no free lunches... be prepared to view your partner's flaws as a plus... and that may require lots of work sometimes! But it will pay off ultimately... as there is absolute satisfaction from a loving and fully functional relationship... Definitely worth it! ;)

Do you like this bedroom?

I'm liking the neutral tones of this bedroom... Soothing and cosy...

What do you think? ;)

Why do we hurt our closest?

You had a bad day... reach home... mum ask something... you snap at her... go to room... slam the door... immediately feel bad... =(

Does this sound familiar? Yes? I admit I'm totally guilty of that... and always try to reflect on my own actions... I tell myself not to do it not to do it... umpteen times... but this thought only fits in my head when I'm feeling rational...

But when I'm feeling irrational... hmm... :s

Why is this happening? Why do we do such things to our loved ones? Because we take their love for granted and assume that no matter what nonsense we do to them, they will not forsake us? But it's not very fair to them... what have they done to deserve such treatment? Maybe there is some other solution for this?

Perhaps... in such events... I should try to count to ten... and not snap... communicate the issue why I'm feeling irritated/ frustrated? Maybe sharing could be a better outlet that snapping?

Imperfectionist

Mistakes and flaws are part and parcel of everyone's lives... No one/ nothing is perfect in this world?

What happens when too many mistakes are made? A disaster?

How does a mistake occur? Misjudgement? Miscalculation? Can't be bothered to think? Or simply not intelligent enough? No.. there could be countless reasons/ excuses... it could be external factors... the weather? the traffic?

What actions to take? To salvage, to mull over it or accept it, acknowledge and move on?

I know I'm sounding illogical here... just trying to convince myself that imperfections are perfectly normal and that we should learn to accept it... not be too critical... not be too hard on myself/ anyone...

Problem is... I try to fix it... spending days and nights... thinking of a solution... sometimes I get it, sometimes I don't... sometimes I even try to fix other people's mistakes... when it's not solved, I get frustrated for wasting time on it...

Really need to learn how to be an imperfectionist... less things to think about...